Recovery After Violence
Recovering From Sexual Assault
The First Few Days or Weeks
In the first few days or weeks after an assault, many survivors want to put it behind them, to forget it, and "get on with their lives." This may be strengthened by feelings of guilt, or shame or feelings that the attack could have been prevented. Unfortunately, these self-blaming attitudes are often reinforced by victim-blaming attitudes in society, or the misunderstanding of friends or family. Some survivors then try to deny that the assault had any effect on them, or deny that it happened at all. This is also a time when survivors are likely to feel depressed, scared, or angry. You may find yourself being more concerned about being attacked again, and focus on locking doors and not being alone. You may also feel depressed and have difficulty with school, work, and other day-to-day activities.
While all these reactions are normal, remember that the assault is not your fault. Each person's healing process is different, but this is a time to allow yourself space to recover. It may help you to talk to family, friends, or someone you trust. If it is difficult for you to talk to someone within your social network, sexual assault counseling can be very helpful at this point. A sexual assault counselor is a supportive person, who will keep everything confidential, and may be easier to talk to about the assault. (For more information on such resources, please see Counseling under Resources and Services.) However you choose to deal with the assault, you deserve time to heal, and should do so in whatever way best suits you.
